You’re welcome, Steve. I am happy to hear that this article has helped you understand your relationship to narcissism, and I want you to know that there is nothing inherently wrong with having narcissistic tendencies. Freud, for example, argued that narcissistic self-investment undergirds the development of the ego, which means that everyone is to some extent narcissistic; if we weren't, then there would be no basis for intrinsic motivation to take care of ourselves.

There is also something really interesting about the degree to which perceptions of cost and benefit undergird all human relations, for one could argue that all relationships are a bit selfish because we get something positive out of them. We all care mostly about ourselves otherwise we’d have no motivation to continue living or pursue happiness. Others are involved in our happiness, and just so we are not abusing or exploiting them purely for our own gain (e.g., only showing interest in them when they’re leaving, paying no attention to their needs or lived experiences, manipulating them out of perceiving us negatively, etc.), then I think there is no reason to be alarmed by noticing narcissistic qualities in oneself. I am not a therapist and do not know enough about your situation to justifiably comment on it, but nevertheless want to say that I think there is no need to act on a compulsion to change yourself if you feel happy and are confident that those close to you feel safe and supported in their relationship with you.