This is an important and subtle distinction that makes a huge difference in the meaning of an apology. It reminds me of acting out of white guilt instead of a commitment to racial justice— “I feel so badly that [I used to do racist stuff]/[White people do awful things to people of color], so I am going to befriend people of color and/or go to a Black Lives Matter rally so I can feel better about myself as a white person!” I hadn’t connected anger to when this backfires (e.g., getting upset when people of color don’t see that I’m actually a really great person who is definitely not racist!), which is interesting to think of in terms of the ulterior motives embedded in these kinds of apologies you describe. Thank you for this writing!