I agree — I think he was definitely expressing some vulnerabilities and insecurities by talking to us, and I don’t think he was trying to be rude or obnoxious… but alas I think his performance of insecurity was based in a phallic presumption of “hardness” that was evidenced interrupting our conversation and then taking control over it by talking about himself. It could also be that he had no one else to talk to about these issues and felt like we were a safe group to discuss them with… but this again presumes we were interested in having this conversation, which we weren’t. I’m beginning to wonder if the phallus is a floatation device for the ego… haha. Thank you for your comment.